Day 7 – You Have to Ask for Help

October 17, 2025

In this episode, Guy Reams shares a profound lesson learned through personal experience. He reflects on his past reluctance to seek help, driven by a desire to appear competent and self-sufficient. Despite gaining skills quickly, he acknowledges the missed opportunities and wasted time due to his pride. Reams emphasizes the importance of humility and the willingness to ask for help, highlighting that many are eager to assist and that collaboration can lead to greater success. He concludes that the real obstacle is not scarcity but pride, urging listeners to overcome their egos and seek support.

Episode Transcript

Guy Reams (00:02.178)
This is the hardest lesson I've learned in my life. I learned it through bitter tears, toil, and pain. When I was growing up, I never wanted anyone to know that I was weak or lacked knowledge. I wanted everyone to think that I was awesome. And if I was not, I would fake it, then spend countless hours faking it and faking it until I could prove that I had been right all along. There was one benefit to this approach.

I learned a great deal in a short time. I took on big mountains and gained skills very quickly. However, I made more mistakes than I care to admit, wasted time that I will never get back, and I missed real opportunities. I watched people who were honest about their limits receive generous help. They leapfrogged ahead while I hid in a closet trying to learn skills that usually take years to develop.

I never became great at any of them. I only became adequate. By sheer dogged determination, I pushed hard, worked way too much, and overcame gaps. That effort is the reason I achieved what I did. Still, if I had been more humble and willing to admit I needed help, more doors would have been opened. My perseverance would have been aimed at larger and better opportunities. Now that I am older, I do not have time to play pretend superstar anymore.

I know what I know. I remain curious enough to learn. At least I've broken through my stubborn figured out mindset and have grasped one simple and powerful lesson. You have to ask for help. Surprisingly, many people are willing to help more than you think. There are people who've been there and done that. More often than not, they gain meaning when they try to get help to another person.

There are also people who would benefit from your success if they invest in you now. If you grow, you can return the favor, hire their service, or maybe champion their product. If you open your eyes, your ears, and your mouth, you may discover right in front of you, you may discover resources right in front of you that could change everything. The obstacle is not scarcity. The obstacle is pride.

Guy Reams (02:26.178)
You have to get past your ego and ask.